clear the air

1mg

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A very few people have been to my house to see my bare tank. I have people trying to act like they know me, and say Im trying to hustle people. Reef wise sold me a nem and said it was a flame tip. I just started in this hobby, yes I read up on things but I went and bought a bunch of stuff one of which I was told was the flame tip. I was going to get a rbta, but the big guy not Brian said they didn't have any, only carpet nems and the flame. Reef wise is supposed to be high end stuff but now people try and judge me like Im supposed to know that the EXPERTS are swindling me. If you sell me something and give it a name don't blame me when I pass it on. I am new to the hobby than people on here want to say what an animal is from a picture on my cricket phone that is 2 years old on an angle. I can barely see with my eyes in person. People on here sell zoa's and give them names. These are not akc zoa's meaning there is no traceable dna, or blood line. Anyone on here looks at the color and makes the judgment. When I first came on here people were very nice, some of the best I have met in Chicagoland, like Smitty. but others want to act like it is one big p*ssing match. That is why out of 12,000,000 people there is 109 active members. People come to forums to learn not to be chastised or judged. This is a business of advertising just like every other forum. I have learned a lot on here and other sites. but helping someone doesn't give you a right to judge or degrade people, especially over a hobby that we are all trying to enjoy. Not all are bad apples and things get lost in translation when it is just words on a page and you cant see someone's eyes. Just because you have money or a big ego doesn't mean you should not be a good person and have morals. You might have what you think is the best coral or setup. but if all you did was buy it than any other shmuck that has the money can do the same. Smitty is an officer and one of the kewlest cops I have ever met. Being a cop will not make him rich but to me his character is worth more in my opinion. Sorry to involve you Smitty but you are an example of an upstanding guy. So as the title says Im just clearing the air. Anyone who has met me knows Im not out to hustle anyone on anything. I have a wealthy friend and a baby mama that lives in HI. So I could get coral shipped to me and sell 10 polyps but it is a hobby to me. If I was out to get you, I would be getting a lot of shipments in. Im about to get a large settlement so to those who don't want to do business with me that is fine I can get my coral. and if you want to judge me that's on you. You may manage hedge funds or whatever else to get rich. Im sitting back inventing products to help sick infants so my conscious is clean. So in conclusion Im not here to swindle any one. if you have something negative to say just say it don't type it to me. I don't want drama I want to enjoy my ocean and you enjoy yours. and I promise you wont see me selling $10 polyps. I try and help the way I can. suggesting you buy the latest and greatest equipment doesn't help everyone and is not the only solution to problems. everyone talks about contributing members but ever hit on the site contributes, because with out it there would be no advertising. and no money means no forum. so remember the golden rule.
 
reef wise gave me a little guy for $25


I got it at reefwise, not brian but the other guy said it was a flame and not a regular rbta. it refuses to settle. I don't want it to end up dead so im offering it up. asking $70, will hold if you paypal. I cant realy get a pic because most of the time it is a ball and walking around. it was about 3inchs when I got it. it was fully opened and bubbled at reefwise when I got it. it should be easy to get out as it is always on the move.


I don't know you, have not met you, and do not want to add to any drama. Actually, this is in the interest of "clearing the air" as your thread title says. In your post above you state (I think) that you are not in this to make a profit, rather to learn and participate in the forums by sharing with others also interested in the hobby.

You may be wondering why people are a bit upset with your anemone thread. Well.. the two links above state that you bought an anemone (regardless of label) for $25 and are now trying to sell what looks very much like a sick and dying anemone for $70. I think this may be what may be fueling a bit of the resentment you reference? Or maybe its just a lot of negative encounters lately, in which case, I'd echo what John said - hang in there, this is a very cool group of people, especially given that it is still an internet group.

Now, it could just be bad pictures (and not blaming you for that at all - its tough taking pictures of our tanks!), or it could be a dying anemone. You yourself indicate that it is constantly floating around and not settling - that bodes very poorly for anemones in general, so it gives weight to the "sick and dying" theory, but I concede that it could possibly just be very bad pictures.

Umm, the rest of your post seems to revolve around a few negative encounters, so with regards to that, well, I have no idea what you're referencing, so I hope you figure all of that out.
 
those bubble tips at rw were flame tips, and $25 was a very resonable price, I dont know how you feel like you got ripped off, they were very nice nems when i saw them (the large one was going for $100 and there were 4 babies when i saw it)
 
ok to clear this SHIIT UP !!! ... lol I traded a few corals... for it .. it is in fact a rbta .. and it is sick... I took it to see if I can make it healthy again... lol im a lil cocky after returning my dendro from the dead...im not sure of the circumstances surrounding what was said at R.W. but I wanted to clear the air.... once and for all as to what it is and its condition... I know what it was going in and traded accordingly.. no regrets if it dosent pull through... on a side note the tentacles are out (sort of) and its stuck to the plastic box its attached to si its still alive I don't believe for a min that R.W. has a flame tip nem for 25 bucks... no way in hell-o-kitty would he sell anything that cheap... mabe 125 ... if that was the case I would go right now and buy one ... mabe under his lights but brian knows the value of the stuff at his store ... not attacking anyone ... ..i'm not chossing sides... that's not what I do ... this isint high school ... now can we get back to watching our tanks LOL ... love 2 all ... peace ...im out!
 
We are a tight knit community here, and some are WAY more frequent than others. It is easy to ruffle feathers and set a "bad" impression. Put it behind you and be a positive contributor. That's the best advise I can give. I still consider myself myself a Noob, and have definitely pissed people off on here. But as I have done that, I still continue to be me. I am sure not everyone cares for me or my dumb sense of humor, but I am who I am. Keep your head up and keep doing what you do to help the children.
 
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ok to clear this SHIIT UP !!! ... lol I traded a few corals... for it .. it is in fact a rbta .. and it is sick... I took it to see if I can make it healthy again... lol im a lil cocky after returning my dendro from the dead...im not sure of the circumstances surrounding what was said at R.W. but I wanted to clear the air.... once and for all as to what it is and its condition... I know what it was going in and traded accordingly.. no regrets if it dosent pull through... on a side note the tentacles are out (sort of) and its stuck to the plastic box its attached to si its still alive I don't believe for a min that R.W. has a flame tip nem for 25 bucks... no way in hell-o-kitty would he sell anything that cheap... mabe 125 ... if that was the case I would go right now and buy one ... mabe under his lights but brian knows the value of the stuff at his store ... not attacking anyone ... ..i'm not chossing sides... that's not what I do ... this isint high school ... now can we get back to watching our tanks LOL ... love 2 all ... peace ...im out!
 
A very few people have been to my house to see my bare tank. I have people trying to act like they know me, and say Im trying to hustle people. Reef wise sold me a nem and said it was a flame tip. I just started in this hobby, yes I read up on things but I went and bought a bunch of stuff one of which I was told was the flame tip. I was going to get a rbta, but the big guy not Brian said they didn't have any, only carpet nems and the flame. Reef wise is supposed to be high end stuff but now people try and judge me like Im supposed to know that the EXPERTS are swindling me. If you sell me something and give it a name don't blame me when I pass it on. I am new to the hobby than people on here want to say what an animal is from a picture on my cricket phone that is 2 years old on an angle. I can barely see with my eyes in person. People on here sell zoa's and give them names. These are not akc zoa's meaning there is no traceable dna, or blood line. Anyone on here looks at the color and makes the judgment. When I first came on here people were very nice, some of the best I have met in Chicagoland, like Smitty. but others want to act like it is one big p*ssing match. That is why out of 12,000,000 people there is 109 active members. People come to forums to learn not to be chastised or judged. This is a business of advertising just like every other forum. I have learned a lot on here and other sites. but helping someone doesn't give you a right to judge or degrade people, especially over a hobby that we are all trying to enjoy. Not all are bad apples and things get lost in translation when it is just words on a page and you cant see someone's eyes. Just because you have money or a big ego doesn't mean you should not be a good person and have morals. You might have what you think is the best coral or setup. but if all you did was buy it than any other shmuck that has the money can do the same. Smitty is an officer and one of the kewlest cops I have ever met. Being a cop will not make him rich but to me his character is worth more in my opinion. Sorry to involve you Smitty but you are an example of an upstanding guy. So as the title says Im just clearing the air. Anyone who has met me knows Im not out to hustle anyone on anything. I have a wealthy friend and a baby mama that lives in HI. So I could get coral shipped to me and sell 10 polyps but it is a hobby to me. If I was out to get you, I would be getting a lot of shipments in. Im about to get a large settlement so to those who don't want to do business with me that is fine I can get my coral. and if you want to judge me that's on you. You may manage hedge funds or whatever else to get rich. Im sitting back inventing products to help sick infants so my conscious is clean. So in conclusion Im not here to swindle any one. if you have something negative to say just say it don't type it to me. I don't want drama I want to enjoy my ocean and you enjoy yours. and I promise you wont see me selling $10 polyps. I try and help the way I can. suggesting you buy the latest and greatest equipment doesn't help everyone and is not the only solution to problems. everyone talks about contributing members but ever hit on the site contributes, because with out it there would be no advertising. and no money means no forum. so remember the golden rule.

Great post Mike,have a great weekend and you will meet some cool people from CR
 
ok to clear this SHIIT UP !!! ... lol I traded a few corals... for it .. it is in fact a rbta .. and it is sick... I took it to see if I can make it healthy again... lol im a lil cocky after returning my dendro from the dead...im not sure of the circumstances surrounding what was said at R.W. but I wanted to clear the air.... once and for all as to what it is and its condition... I know what it was going in and traded accordingly.. no regrets if it dosent pull through... on a side note the tentacles are out (sort of) and its stuck to the plastic box its attached to si its still alive I don't believe for a min that R.W. has a flame tip nem for 25 bucks... no way in hell-o-kitty would he sell anything that cheap... mabe 125 ... if that was the case I would go right now and buy one ... mabe under his lights but brian knows the value of the stuff at his store ... not attacking anyone ... ..i'm not chossing sides... that's not what I do ... this isint high school ... now can we get back to watching our tanks LOL ... love 2 all ... peace ...im out!

Just my opinion Aquaman.

I thnk you got the short end of your trade... To bring back a bubble tip anemone will take a couple months and a lot of attention.. From his pics.. the anemone looked sick, about to die, and bleached.. i would probably say isolate the anemone and keep it well fed, great water quality and under a good light.. If you are lucky enough you will get it back to health.. worse case is it dies on you and the corals you traded for it are for a sick and dead anemone
 
As a few have said already, we are a passionate, tight knit group. Many of us have become friends in the real world because of this forum. Most of us spend our free time voluntarily helping each other and new reefers with their issues and questions. Now, that being said.
If you don't want to make people mad here there's a few things to avoid doing. One of these things involves buying something and trying to turn a profit. Unless you're a sponsor this is frowned upon. Is it allowed? Yes. Is it going to make you friends? No.
Also, this community is huge on paying it forward. What's that mean? It means that those of us having success with corals frag pieces and give them away for free. It means a pump or supplies that aren't needed can go to someone that can use them, free of charge. What goes around comes around. Through PIF people get help they need or a coral they want for free, under the assumption that the receiving individual will PIF in the future. Really want to make people mad? Sell your PIF stuff or grossly take advantage of it. Is this happening? Yes. Should it be happening? No.
Want to truly "clear the air?" Man up and apologize. You don't have to believe you're wrong to apologize. That's not the purpose of it after all, right? Take advantage of this forum (the right way) and the people that its made of. Sometimes passionate people are the worst when it comes to handling things they don't believe in. It's not right by any means. But try to see the reasoning behind it before you act. Lets keep our heads above water and our corals under it.

*Disclaimer: This post was in no way directed at any one individual, including the thread author. Lets not get all butthurt and get back to reefing. In case you still feel like arguing please see the attached pic below.

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basically I fent the coral I traded was a pif of sorts... they didn't mean much to me ... and I wanted to try my hand savin the lil guy ... so I can puff up my ego a lil :P
 
hell as nice as your tank is he will come back beautiful and be the flame at least to some people lol
 
I called reef wise he said he sells flame nems fo4 65... and rbta for 35 so if he sold you a rbta for 65 he screwed ya not saying intentionally just saying you got screwed... if he in fact said it was a flame ... its definitely a red bubble tip... the tentacles are coming out and there is no other color but red ... so if he sold it to you for 35 then its a rbta... I called them directly ...today ....like I said no regrets :) just had to find out if he had an actual flame for 25 like fwdiver said .... they are 65
 
I called reef wise he said he sells flame nems fo4 65... and rbta for 35 so if he sold you a rbta for 65 he screwed ya not saying intentionally just saying you got screwed... if he in fact said it was a flame ... its definitely a red bubble tip... the tentacles are coming out and there is no other color but red ... so if he sold it to you for 35 then its a rbta... I called them directly ...today ....like I said no regrets :) just had to find out if he had an actual flame for 25 like fwdiver said .... they are 65
Some times they lose color when they get that stressed if it is a flame colors will come back once its healthy again um glad it went to someone to try to save it keep me informed crazy dave
 
thanks bro ... im trying every time I see it open I feed it lol ... that's how I got the dendro back lol
 
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