I feel you Tin. My original female is a mean bugger. I literally don't even bother going in the tank without my giant superman gloves on. It's not that it hurths that much, but you just can't get prepared for the startle and usueally a startle is a bad thing when you hand is in the tank. Mine hunts me along the glass when I get close. The male just sits back and is like "Dear, he may have food, but I support whatever you decide to do because you're a sexy giant. . . Oh man, I gotta shake it out now."